How many of you have gone out and had your hair color changed then gone home and the first thing you say to everyone is “do you like it?” and when they don’t we are shattered. We may have loved the bright red color but when everyone else finishes with their comments, of “my god what have you done with your hair,” or “Your hairdresser made mess of that didn’t she, what are you going to do about it.” We fall into gloom of despair, and look in the mirror thinking, well may be its not so great after all, and by the next morning you hate it too.

Now I want you to stop right here and think for a moment, if you suffer from depression where does this depression stem from? Is it rejection based? Is it that you are continually looking for validation by anther person? If you’re a validation person like I used to be, then you are always going to struggle till you get to the point where you no longer look for or want anyone else’s validation of you or your life. If its love that is your weakness, then you will always be on the seesaw of up and down, until you learn to truly honor your self, listen to the tiny voice within; be open and honest about how you feel and what your boundaries are, without expecting the other person to carry and take responsibility for how you are feeling! 

So early in our lives the patterns are set in place, without realizing it we look for acceptance when ever anything in our lives changes. How many of you have gone out and had your hair color changed then gone home and the first thing you say to everyone is “do you like it?” and when they don’t we are shattered. We may have loved the bright red color but when everyone else finishes with their comments, of “my god what have you done with your hair,” or “Your hairdresser made mess of that didn’t she, what are you going to do about it.” We fall into gloom of despair, and look in the mirror thinking, well may be its not so great after all, and by the next morning you hate it too.

Now I want you to stop right here and think for a moment, if you suffer from depression where does this depression stem from? Is it rejection based? Is it that you are continually looking for validation by anther person? If you’re a validation person like I used to be, then you are always going to struggle till you get to the point where you no longer look for or want anyone else’s validation of you or your life. If its love that is your weakness, then you will always be on the seesaw of up and down, until you learn to truly honor your self, listen to the tiny voice within; be open and honest about how you feel and what your boundaries are, without expecting the other person to carry and take responsibility for how you are feeling!

So early in our lives the patterns are set in place, without realizing it we look for acceptance when ever anything in our lives changes. How many of you have gone out and had your hair color changed then gone home and the first thing you say to everyone is “do you like it?” and when they don’t we are shattered. We may have loved the bright red color but when everyone else finishes with their comments, of “my god what have you done with your hair,” or “Your hairdresser made mess of that didn’t she, what are you going to do about it.” We fall into gloom of despair, and look in the mirror thinking, well may be its not so great after all, and by the next morning you hate it too.

Now I want you to stop right here and think for a moment, if you suffer from depression where does this depression stem from? Is it rejection based? Is it that you are continually looking for validation by anther person? If you’re a validation person like I used to be, then you are always going to struggle till you get to the point where you no longer look for or want anyone else’s validation of you or your life. If its love that is your weakness, then you will always be on the seesaw of up and down, until you learn to truly honor your self, listen to the tiny voice within; be open and honest about how you feel and what your boundaries are, without expecting the other person to carry and take responsibility for how you are feeling! 

Learn to live true to your heart without expectations of the other person feeding you the energy of love and be interdependent instead of living through the other person or expecting them to live through you. Stand in the power of who you are, don’t be what you think other people want you to be.

When ever we experience rejection the most common action is to stop what ever it was you were doing and revert to what was accepted behavior by those around us. Can you identify times in your life where you have given up your dreams or visions because someone else didn’t think it would work? Or someone else didn’t want you doing that? Jealousy and Control are very destructive energies we all have to find constructive ways to deal with not only in others around our lives but within our selves.   

Depression is often the result of us allowing someone else to put the fire of life purpose out! No one did it to us, all they did was hold up a mirror which projected our inner lack of self worth or lack of inner security, we do it to ourselves in the ultimate challenge of strengthening our souls ability to overcome weakness in our self belief. You have two choices in life, at every instant of thought you have two choices, to move in a positive direction and acknowledge self, or to dismiss the self and believe the illusion life would present to you that you are powerless, that you don’t count, that you can not achieve, that no one will listen, that you are not pretty enough that you are not intelligent enough that you need ten degrees before anyone thinks you have anything interesting to say.

The greatest people of all times are people who were not university educated. The greatest people of our times are people with heart and self belief and a passion for doing what’s right instead of doing the right thing!

So if you’re a person who falls into depression and beats your self to a pulp the question I ask you right now is why? And not only why, but why do you give your power away to other people, why do you look for their approval of you and your life? Find the power of your soul’s purpose and follow it, no matter what other people say.

As long as your vision does not harm another human being, as long as it lifts your soul to fly, why not…………………………………………………………..

MUCH LOVE    TRUITY.

this article is in no way intended as medical advice, if your symptoms persist consult your Doctor.