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Written by Lesley Williams TRUITY

Monday, 24 January 2005

BAD THINGS HAPPEN WHEN GOOD PEOPLE DO NOTHING!

It was 5 days into the New Year; I had arranged to meet with a small group of friends for breakfast. The restaurant was in a small group of shops just down from the Jetty strip and the shops included several Restaurants and a Pub. With parking being a premium I parked my car in a supermarket parking lot and proceeded to walk towards the pedestrian crossing, to walk over to meet my friends. Robert, one of my friends had seen me park the car; he waved and began walking towards the crossing to meet me on the side of the road near the bus shelter.

I had to walk past a bus shelter to reach the pedestrian crossing and as I walked closer to my amazement I noticed how many people were standing outside rather than inside the shelter. The people were a mix of old, young, males, females, some obviously tourists and a couple of teenage yuppies, quite a cross section. My thoughts were immediately “how odd,” there’s plenty of room on the bench inside and it’s so hot this morning. My nature is I am a people watcher, that’s how I developed the products and gained insight for my books. So naturally, curiosity killed the cat, and I stopped to see why these people would rather stand in the hot sun than sit or stand in the shade of the shelter.

When I turned to look inside I was shocked at what I saw, at one end of the shelter was a couple of young people huddled in the corner, like they were avoiding the plague. My eyes immediately scanned the shelter and to my astonishment there was dried blood everywhere, and not only blood but at the end of the bench seat sprawled incoherently was what appeared to be a very well dressed middle-aged man. I immediately went into action mode, weighing up the situation quickly, the man had a small tote bag or carry bag by his side and my first impressions were this was no street vagrant; this mans clothes were neatly pressed and quite new. This information gave me insight into how to handle what was happening. The man had several large gashes on his face, an obvious broken nose, grazes on his arms and blood everywhere. I couldn’t believe what I was seeing, here was a man who was obviously in trouble, and yet no one was doing anything - everyone walked around him! Not one person offered of any description, and the poor man had obviously been lying in the shelter for hours.

The man was very incoherent and confused as he groped around repeatedly trying to get to his feet as he reached out to people trying to speak with words coming out in what may have been mistaken for a drunken stupor.

My mouth dropped open as I turned to my friend Robert, “What is happening here?” I asked. “Why has no one helped this man?” I was firing up with indignity and disbelief that the human race could be and obviously was deteriorating in its values to a point where we leave a person who is obviously injured without help. I could not believe what I was seeing, “What is wrong with these people?” I yelled as I scrambled in my handbag for my mobile phone. I shook as I dialed 000 “Is that the emergency line, can I have the ambulance,” I almost yelled down the phone. The call completed, we stepped back to the side of the shelter to wait the ambulance and police to come Robert and I kept an eye on him and made sure he was not hurt any further. In the few minutes, which passed between the call and the ambulance arriving the man managed to stagger to his feet and try to get himself off down the road, only to fall into a garden semiconscious.

My friend looked at me with compassion as he said, “People just don't want to get involved Lesley,” “Well that’s disgusting, what a sad world this is becoming when people can stand by and leave someone who could be dying just laying in the street.” I was so angry; “Something has to be done, what is happening to our society, I never thought I would see the day in Australia where something like this happened! “This world is becoming a sad and sorry place, that’s all I can say and something has to be done to wake up peoples conscience.” Within a few minutes not one, not two, but three ambulances arrived with two police cars with sirens blaring. We watched as the man was gently and ever so gently placed on a stretcher and carried off to hospital, and the people at the bus shelter just turned their heads away as though it was something that if they didn’t look – then it wasn’t there.

I am here to prompt your conscience and get you to think from both sides of the coin. So I pose these questions to you. What would you do if faced by this situation?

What will happen to our society if we continue to do nothing when another person needs help? How would you feel if you were the person who had been mugged and no one helped you? How would you feel if it was one of your families who had been left without help? What are your thoughts on why these people chose to do nothing?

Closing Note:
May be I am a Pollyanna (I’m not sure), but to my way of thinking if every person understood that as human beings we have a very basic value base, and if we could get everyone to begin treating each other, with respect, trust, acceptance, compassion and support by interacting and speaking to others the way we want people to interact and speak to us then many of the problems we are experiencing in society would vanish - It’s that simple.

Josie's story

The Story of Josie ( A true story)

It’s a warm Sunday afternoon, the sky is scattered with light fluffy clouds and the scent of sweetness floats through the air from the Wattle tree in blossom outside of her window. Josie doesn’t see the beauty in the afternoon, lately she doesn’t see the beauty in anything very much, and her life has become one huge scavenger hunt, where she spends every waking moment desperately trying to either control or fix her life.

Her eyes are as blue as cornflowers, her hair long and wavy, her body tiny and thin almost to the point of gauntness. Like a tiny delicate bird that has just endured another storm, she huddles in a crumpled heap almost invisible in the corner of her lounge suite. Muffled heart wrenching sobs fill the air with a thickness that is almost physical as Josie desperately clings to one of the huge indigo blue silk pillows which adorn her modest home. Her daughter Becky looks on in helpless desperation, not knowing what to do to ease her mother’s pain, nor her own for that matter. Right at this moment Becky just wants to be anywhere but here with this basket case of a mother of hers, how she hates the new age crap. “pull yourself together for Gods sake,” Becky yells at her mother, tears flooding down her face she just cant bear to see what’s happening any longer, she turns and flees from the room, anywhere, I just want to be anywhere but here!

Finally after an hour or two, Josie begins to regain some measure of composure, her face swollen from the tears, her beautiful eyes red she sniffles into a handful of crumpled tissues, and looks around the room hopelessly.

“What did I do this time?” she asks herself over and over, and looking to the sky she screams, “Why me God? What have I done to deserve this?” and the tears continue to flow.

Josie has been working on fixing her life for so long now, she is tired, so tired and even though every $ she has goes into books, and workshops, at the end of the day nothing really seems to be getting better. She went to a workshop just last month that promised emotional healing, it took her back to all the crap from childhood, facing the poverty once again and the nastiness of other children because her family were so poor, she thought she had finished with all that, but no, it still hurts. At the end of the workshop she did for a moment feel better, and she even felt justified in having some reason for what she perceived to be her inability to have a committed relationship with a man. Although she couldn’t understand how her having chronic fatigue related to what happened in her childhood, but at least she had something to blame. Life just wasn’t working out, and all the looking back into the past only seemed to keep bring up feelings and thoughts that kept her miserable now. And it surely was doing that, the ra-ra-ra of the workshop left her high as a kite, only to hit the ground with one heck of a thump just weeks later when reality set in, that life is still about living, and its not what you did but what your doing now that counts………

Taking a deep breath, she reached for the phone and dialed, ……… “Good morning,” a strong clear voice chirped into the ear piece of the phone, “Hi, its Josie,” she sniffled “I need to talk to you my friend, for Gods sake help me to understand, I just cant take this any longer, what am I doing? What is it that keeps me this blubbering mess?”

Personal Development and Workshops! What do they really do for you?

Have you ever left a workshop or training course after paying hundreds of $ feeling "Yes, that was fantastic! Only to wake up a few weeks later feeling even more disempowered, confused and depressed than you were before you went? When you went back to the instructor of the course did that person then lay the blame right back at your feet, saying things like, "well you didn’t stick to the breathing routine you were supposed to do, or you didn't stick to the diet, so what do you expect?" Always the blame is placed right back at your feet, it couldn’t have possibly been because the theory they were tying to implant in your psyche just doesn’t work! No, and its always a mystery to me how so many of the empowerment products and process just leave you an emotional basket case, even more unsure and even more frustrated than before you became involved.

The most powerful insight you can learn from Josie is that “What ever you focus on is what you experience.” She was so busy trying to fix her life; she lived every moment trying to work out what was wrong, so all she got was more and more sadness. It’s so simple, make the choice now, to stop the self analyzing, stop the thinking about the past, stop the sadness, and live! Right this moment you have the power to choose how you’re going to feel, so what will it be?

Depression & Suicide .p.4

In the last articles I briefly covered the topic of Depression and how and why depression strikes us. I trust that the content of those two articles provided you with food for thought, I must say the public response to the articles I found quite astounding. I never expected to have so many people read these particular pieces. Over 9 thousand reads on our old website were these pages on depression.

Every 18 minutes in the United States someone takes their own life. The statistics say that the young males are the most vulnerable, from the ages of 15 to 29 apparently, but in general males are more likely to commit suicide than women. Why? So many unanswered why’s, so many people reaching a point where they just want the pain to stop, and they cant go on, but why?

Is it feeling that no one cares? Is it that life is simply too hard? Is it to punish those left behind? Or maybe it’s all of the above. One thing for sure suicide is final. I want to spend some time now dealing with the things that I have briefly mentioned. I have chosen these as I believe that they are the core, most other things like drugs, relationship breakdown, alcohol, and financial problems all are secondary of the core 3 elements that I have mentioned. Think about it, and you will see what I mean. Sometimes people who are depressed become so self absorbed that the literally can’t see the wood for the trees, their problems and their world is the whole focus of their every thought. But how can you change that? If you’re depressed and feel like you’re fighting the whole world just to survive how you can switch your focus. So often people who are depressed are so busy talking negative chatter in their heads reinforcing the struggle they don’t hear a word of what anyone says to them anyway. All they hear are statements such as, “You should be ……” “Why don’t you…..” “Stop feeling sorry for yourself,,,, get a life…..”

This is why counseling and help lines like life line are means for people to grab a life line, have someone listen and understand and care. But then what happens? One of the hardest things to understand in life is that life is really not at all like you thought it should be. Parenting for example; is two people who often don’t know how to love or communicate then trying to teach another little being how to love and communicate and we wonder why it doesn’t work! The television would have you believe that life should be like the old TV series the Brady bunch when in fact most families are more like the Munster’s. Then there are the expectations of how when you leave school you will have the perfect body, the perfect smile, the perfect job, and become a millionaire in a moment, and all of this is in reality just a heap of unrealistic crap. Life is about good and bad, it’s about the drama, the learning, the building of strength of character, and it’s about values and most of all it’s about never giving up.

Think about it, if life was all airy fairies and there were no challenges, were no problems, and everyone was super nice and things just floated about, we would get awfully bored very fast – don’t you think? So why do you expect it to be all a bed of roses? Just a bit easier I hear you say! Well let me tell you a secret, life never hands you more than you can stretch to overcome. Your challenge is to realize, that the challenge is just a chance to grow; it’s the opportunity for you to feel that discomfort of change. The answer to depression is to get determined, find your passion, grab it, and set your path, one tiny step at a time, stay focused, it may take you 30 years like me, but you stay focused on changing your life and I guarantee it will happen. If you’re lonely do something about it, make up your mind, join wanabelong.com. Don’t think you can’t do that because you feel stupid. It’s even more stupid to sit at home alone feeling sorry for yourself. Your thoughts are the walls that keep you locked up and alone, and no one can fix that except you. You might think people don’t understand you, well the question is do you understand yourself? And if you do then well you certainly should join wanabelong.com because you can probably teach me something! If what I write makes you angry then good! If you’re angry you’re alive, use that anger to turn it to a positive and get motivated.

You were born because you wanted to experience the dramas of life – this it the ultimate truth of our experiences on earth. We are born, we grow, we have choices, to either take life personally and be the victim or we can make the choice to see that life is an opportunity, to grow, to change, to learn, to laugh, to cry, to live – and then at peace finally die of old age if we are lucky. Bad luck is not a punishment; life falling apart generally means that the life you have been living has been based upon an untruth. Something you wanted to be real was not. Yet if your self honest you can see how you contributed to that painful experience, you may have said yes, when it should have been no. You looked for someone else to take care of you, instead of rising to the challenge and finding ways to take care of yourself. This is not about you being good or bad, it’s simply about having the courage to look at how you have contributed to your life, and right at this moment, choosing to change that from here on. You can’t change the past, what is done is done. You have the power right here, right now to reach out to someone for help, to ask someone to listen, to share your story and seek the ways to change.

What is it that gives one person the strength to keep going, to pick them selves up and dust their self off and start again? While another takes that irrevocable step, the step that shatters lives, hearts and minds of those left behind. So what contributes to suicide? Is it feeling that no one cares? Is it that life is simply too hard? Is it to punish those left behind? Or maybe it’s all of the above. One thing for sure suicide is final. I want to spend some time now dealing with the things that I have briefly mentioned. I have chosen these as I believe that they are the core, most other things like drugs, relationship breakdown, alcohol, and financial problems all are secondary of the core 3 elements that I have mentioned. Think about it, and you will see what I mean. Sometimes people who are depressed become so self absorbed that the literally can’t see the wood for the trees, their problems and their world is the whole focus of their every thought. But how can you change that? If you’re depressed and feel like you’re fighting the whole world just to survive how you can switch your focus. So often people who are depressed are so busy talking negative chatter in their heads reinforcing the struggle they don’t hear a word of what anyone says to them anyway. All they hear are statements such as, “You should be ……” “Why don’t you…..” “Stop feeling sorry for yourself,,,, get a life…..” This is why counseling and help lines like life line are means for people to grab a life line, have someone listen and understand and care. But then what happens? One of the hardest things to understand in life is that life is really not at all like you thought it should be. Parenting for example; is two people who often don’t know how to love or communicate then trying to teach another little being how to love and communicate and we wonder why it doesn’t work!

The television would have you believe that life should be like the old TV series the Brady bunch when in fact most families are more like the Munster’s. Then there are the expectations of how when you leave school you will have the perfect body, the perfect smile, the perfect job, and become a millionaire in a moment, and all of this is in reality just a heap of unrealistic crap. Life is about good and bad, it’s about the drama, the learning, the building of strength of character, and it’s about values and most of all it’s about never giving up. Think about it, if life was all airy fairies and there were no challenges, were no problems, and everyone was super nice and things just floated about, we would get awfully bored very fast – don’t you think? So why do you expect it to be all a bed of roses? Just a bit easier I hear you say! Well let me tell you a secret, life never hands you more than you can stretch to overcome. Your challenge is to realize, that the challenge is just a chance to grow; it’s the opportunity for you to feel that discomfort of change. The answer to depression is to get determined, find your passion, grab it, and set your path, one tiny step at a time, stay focused, it may take you 30 years like me, but you stay focused on changing your life and I guarantee it will happen. If you’re lonely do something about it, make up your mind, join wanabelong.com. Don’t think you can’t do that because you feel stupid. It’s even more stupid to sit at home alone feeling sorry for yourself. Your thoughts are the walls that keep you locked up and alone, and no one can fix that except you. You might think people don’t understand you, well the question is do you understand yourself? And if you do then well you certainly should join wanabelong.com because you can probably teach me something! If what I write makes you angry then good! If you’re angry you’re alive, use that anger to turn it to a positive and get motivated. You were born because you wanted to experience the dramas of life – this it the ultimate truth of our experiences on earth. We are born, we grow, we have choices, to either take life personally and be the victim or we can make the choice to see that life is an opportunity, to grow, to change, to learn, to laugh, to cry, to live – and then at peace finally die of old age if we are lucky. Bad luck is not a punishment; life falling apart generally means that the life you have been living has been based upon an untruth. Something you wanted to be real was not. Yet if your self honest you can see how you contributed to that painful experience, you may have said yes, when it should have been no. You looked for someone else to take care of you, instead of rising to the challenge and finding ways to take care of yourself. This is not about you being good or bad, it’s simply about having the courage to look at how you have contributed to your life, and right at this moment, choosing to change that from here on. You can’t change the past, what is done is done. You have the power right here, right now to reach out to someone for help, to ask someone to listen, to share your story and seek the ways to change.

Life is about good and bad, it’s about the drama, the learning, the building of strength of character, and it’s about values and most of all it’s about never giving up. Think about it, if life was all airy fairies and there were no challenges, were no problems, and everyone was super nice and things just floated about, we would get awfully bored very fast – don’t you think? So why do you expect it to be all a bed of roses? Just a bit easier I hear you say! Well let me tell you a secret, life never hands you more than you can stretch to overcome. Your challenge is to realize, that the challenge is just a chance to grow; it’s the opportunity for you to feel that discomfort of change. The answer to depression is to get determined, find your passion, grab it, and set your path, one tiny step at a time, stay focused, it may take you 30 years like me, but you stay focused on changing your life and I guarantee it will happen. If you’re lonely do something about it, make up your mind, join wanabelong.com. Don’t think you can’t do that because you feel stupid. It’s even more stupid to sit at home alone feeling sorry for yourself. Your thoughts are the walls that keep you locked up and alone, and no one can fix that except you. You might think people don’t understand you, well the question is do you understand yourself? And if you do then well you certainly should join wanabelong.com because you can probably teach me something! If what I write makes you angry then good! If you’re angry you’re alive, use that anger to turn it to a positive and get motivated.

Dealing with Depression .p.3

Last week I wrote a short piece on Depression and the soul’s lack of expression. This week in the forum we have had one brave girl put forward her story and this story has inspired me to write more. So this is for you…

Do you remember a time when you were so enthusiastic about life that you felt you would burst? What happened? What burst the bubble? What hit you so hard in the solar plexus that you stopped believing in yourself, in your dream?

When ever we want to grow, change our lives, start a new career, or just fall in love we look to the people around us for reassurance that what we are doing is right and acceptable. This is a left over from being children, we are taught as children that if we do what our parents want we get cuddles and if we don’t do what is acceptable we often get rejected or punished! So early in our lives the patterns are set in place, without realizing it we look for acceptance when ever anything in our lives changes.

How many of you have gone out and had your hair color changed then gone home and the first thing you say to everyone is “do you like it?” and when they don’t we are shattered. We may have loved the bright red color but when everyone else finishes with their comments, of “my god what have you done with your hair,” or “Your hairdresser made mess of that didn’t she, what are you going to do about it.” We fall into gloom of despair, and look in the mirror thinking, well may be its not so great after all, and by the next morning you hate it too.

Now I want you to stop right here and think for a moment, if you suffer from depression where does this depression stem from? Is it rejection based? Is it that you are continually looking for validation by anther person? If you’re a validation person like I used to be, then you are always going to struggle till you get to the point where you no longer look for or want anyone else’s validation of you or your life. If its love that is your weakness, then you will always be on the seesaw of up and down, until you learn to truly honor your self, listen to the tiny voice within; be open and honest about how you feel and what your boundaries are, without expecting the other person to carry and take responsibility for how you are feeling!

So early in our lives the patterns are set in place, without realizing it we look for acceptance when ever anything in our lives changes. How many of you have gone out and had your hair color changed then gone home and the first thing you say to everyone is “do you like it?” and when they don’t we are shattered. We may have loved the bright red color but when everyone else finishes with their comments, of “my god what have you done with your hair,” or “Your hairdresser made mess of that didn’t she, what are you going to do about it.” We fall into gloom of despair, and look in the mirror thinking, well may be its not so great after all, and by the next morning you hate it too.

Learn to live true to your heart without expectations of the other person feeding you the energy of love and be interdependent instead of living through the other person or expecting them to live through you. Stand in the power of who you are, don’t be what you think other people want you to be.

When ever we experience rejection the most common action is to stop what ever it was you were doing and revert to what was accepted behavior by those around us. Can you identify times in your life where you have given up your dreams or visions because someone else didn’t think it would work? Or someone else didn’t want you doing that? Jealousy and Control are very destructive energies we all have to find constructive ways to deal with not only in others around our lives but within our selves.

Depression is often the result of us allowing someone else to put the fire of life purpose out! No one did it to us, all they did was hold up a mirror which projected our inner lack of self worth or lack of inner security, we do it to ourselves in the ultimate challenge of strengthening our souls ability to overcome weakness in our self belief. You have two choices in life, at every instant of thought you have two choices, to move in a positive direction and acknowledge self, or to dismiss the self and believe the illusion life would present to you that you are powerless, that you don’t count, that you can not achieve, that no one will listen, that you are not pretty enough that you are not intelligent enough that you need ten degrees before anyone thinks you have anything interesting to say.

The greatest people of all times are people who were not university educated. The greatest people of our times are people with heart and self belief and a passion for doing what’s right instead of doing the right thing!

So if you’re a person who falls into depression and beats your self to a pulp the question I ask you right now is why? And not only why, but why do you give your power away to other people, why do you look for their approval of you and your life? Find the power of your soul’s purpose and follow it, no matter what other people say.

As long as your vision does not harm another human being, as long as it lifts your soul to fly, why not…………………………………………………………..

MUCH LOVE TRUITY.

this article is in no way intended as medical advice, if your symptoms persist consult your Doctor.

Dealing with Depression .p.2

What can you do if you suffer depression? Well first do see your doctor or councellor and then look at all the options;

Search inside of yourself for your creative spark, and then for the love of it, begin to develop and allow your soul to once again express its uniqueness in ways that do not self destruct. Depression is anger aimed inward, when this happens the energy system of the body shuts down, it disconnects with its God self, with its creative potential, its source of life. The key with creative expression is not to get caught up in the judgment of your expression, so underlying the dThese issues also need to be worked with, and the key here is to simply learn to accept that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and what is one mans trash is another mans treasure. It's what you are feeling that's important, it's the fact your creative energy is flowing that will lead other areas of your life to open up and blossom.

When we allow our creative energy to flow, it opens us to life it provides an avenue for a rush of energy to flow through the physical body sending the message to every cell and fibre in our being that we are alive. Creativity can be simple things, it can be making bookmarks, it can be photography, it can be sewing, dancing, planting a beautiful garden.

And just like planting a garden remember, that creativity just like a garden takes time to grow. You're not going to develop all the skills you want overnight its going to take time for you to begin to reach your potential. So be patient, it takes 2 years for an idea to manifest to it fullest into a physical experience. I have seen many people become down hearted when they take on a new job and it doesn't immediately bring results. We have become a society which seeks immediate gratification and when we don't get it we get angry and walk away. I recently watched one young man at work who had taken on a position as a sales man, he came into the job with power and passion and then 5 weeks later he still hadn't made a sale, you could see his energy begin to drop away, then 6 weeks into the job he stopped coming to work, calling in sick. What had happened here was that firstly he did not understand that it takes a while to get the energy moving and to achieve success, and second his self judgement was giving him a very hard time. His expectations of himself were totally unrealistic, but they were expectations which he had adopted from society!

When I began with Truity, I had all manner of challenges to overcome, and the only person who could do this was me. People shook their heads told me I was crazy told me it would kill me, and instead of giving me encouragement, all but one of my friends walked away from me. People could not see the vision I had burning in my soul, they could not understand that I was willing to literally walk through hell to manifest my vision of an online global community which supports people to excel.

Your creative energy is yours and yours alone. Don't expect other people to understand why you have taken up painting, or dancing, or photography! Do it because it fulfils a passion that fires your heart - that brings your soul to life and generates joy and goodness.

Remember just take one step at a time, don't try to run before you can walk and in time with constant focus and nurturing from yourself, your creative ability will lead you to get your life back in balance.

One last thought for those of you I can hear saying, "but I am not creative, I don't have a creative bone in my body." Well folks look deeper, even an accountant can be creative, the key is just finding a way to bring that expression to life. Good luck and Godbless TRUITY

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